Modesty Alert Post - This may not be appropriate for men who do not have daughters or are not in leadership over women.
This is a good start to get you to think about modest attire and the attitudes of the heart.
“…Women should adorn themselves in respectable
apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with
braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,
but with what is proper for women
who profess godliness—with good works.”
~1 Timothy 2:9-10
Start with a Heart Check…
“How does a woman discern the sometimes fine line between proper dress and dressing to be the center of attention? The answer starts in the intent of the heart. A woman should examine her motives and goals for the way she dresses. Is her intent to show the grace and beauty of womanhood? Is it to reveal a humble heart devoted to worshipping God? Or is it to call attention to herself and flaunt her beauty? Or worse, to attempt to lure men sexually? A woman who focuses on worshipping God will consider carefully how she is dressed, because her heart will dictate her wardrobe and appearance.” John MacArthur [emphasis added]
~ What statement do my clothes make about my heart?
~ In choosing what clothes to wear today, whose attention do I desire and whose approval do I crave? Am I seeking to please God or impress others?
~ Is what I wear consistent with biblical values of modesty, selfcontrol and respectable apparel, or does my dress reveal an inordinate identification and fascination with sinful cultural values?
~ Who am I trying to identify with through my dress? Is the Word of God my standard or is the latest fashion?
~ Have I asked other godly individuals to evaluate my wardrobe?
~ Does my clothing reveal an allegiance to the gospel or is there any contradiction between my profession of faith and my practice of godliness?
Before you leave the house, do a modesty check. (What are some things you should look for as you stand in front of your mirror?)
From the top…
~ When I am wearing a loose-fitting blouse or scoop-neck, can I see anything when I lean over? If so, I need to remember to place my hand against my neckline when I bend down.
~ If I am wearing a button-down top, I need to turn sideways and move around to see if there are any gaping holes that expose my chest. If there are, I’ve got to grab the sewing box and pin between the buttons.
~ The same check is needed if I am wearing a sleeveless shirt. When I move around, can I see my bra? If I do, I need the pins again.
~ Am I wearing a spaghetti-strap, halter, or sheer blouse? Not even pins will fix this problem! Most guys find these a hindrance in their struggle with lust. It’s time to go back to the closet.
~ Can I see the lace or seam of my bra through my shirt? In this case, seamless bras are a better option.
~ More key questions: Does my shirt reveal any part of my cleavage? Does my midriff show when I raise my hands above my head? Is my shirt just plain too tight? If the answer to any one of these questions is yes, then I need to change my outfit.
~ Does my midriff (or underwear) show when I bend over or lift my hands? If so, is it because my skirt or my pants are too low? Either my shirt needs to be longer or I need to find a skirt or pants that sit higher.
~ I also have to turn around to see if what I’m wearing is too tight around my back
side, or if the outline of my underwear shows. If so, I know what I have to do!
~ And as for shorts – I can’t just check them standing up. I need to see how much they reveal when I sit down. If I see too much leg, I need a longer pair.
~ The “sit-down” check applies to my skirt or dress as well. And I must remember to keep my skirt pulled down and my knees together when I’m seated.
~ And speaking of skirts, watch out for those slits! Does it reveal too much when I walk? Pins are also helpful here.
~ Before I leave, I need to give my skirt a sunlight check. Is it seethrough? If so, I need a slip.
~ Finally, I must remember to do this modesty check with my shoes on. High-heels make my dress or skirt appear shorter.
~ And don’t forget – this applies to formal wear as well.
~ A note on swimwear: It’s not easy but you can still strive to be modest at the pool or beach. Look for one-piece bathing suits that aren’t cut high on the leg and don’t have low necklines.
Modesty Check © 2002 Sovereign Grace Ministries
Republished in Girl Talk: Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood
by Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Whitacre (Crossway Books)
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