Separation in the Church

“We have much the same problem in the Church…Mom goes off to her Women in the church…circle.  Dad heads off to his Promise Keepers meeting.  Princess is at her youth group meeting, while Junior is watching videos of vegetables in children’s church….the truth is we are failing miserably, even when we think we are succeeding.  We’re allowing our families to be torn apart because we are allowing our families to be molded by the wisdom of the world.”

R.C. Sproul, in Bound for Glory

The home in the New Testament was the center of spiritual activity. Even a casual reading of the New Testament reveals that the home was a haven for prayer, healing, Biblical teaching, breaking of bread, hospitality, ministry to the sick, and happy, genuine relationships. In short, it was a place to display the truth, justice, mercy, and goodness of God.

Scott Brown, from the National Center for Family- Integrated Churches

Which describes your home and church life?


4 thoughts on “Separation in the Church

  1. Our church is highly age-segregated, but our kids remain with us in the main sanctuary. As such, they are very removed from what goes on in youth church as well as from the kids who frequent the services geared toward teens.

    We do get separated a bit during church since our church also frowns on antsy or cranky babies and I often end up in the overflow room when the sermon gets going listening to it from there. Our toddler is getting better at sitting for long stretches so we are hoping to be past this phase soon.

    Our home life (which you and I have “discussed” here previously) is not at all segregated. We are together alot. When we watch a TV program, we all watch it together because we only have one TV. We eat dinner together, take walks together, and discuss whatis going on in each others’ lives and hearts.

    Berean Wife Reply:


    We’ve been in churches before that any sound that a baby made was frowned upon. I’m always very careful to not allow mine to be disruptive, but that isn’t even acceptable with some churches. Often I would have trouble when my husband was teaching or otherwise serving and there I sat with a baby and several little ones. But we always managed somehow. My littlest has been sitting through long services for years. The typical sermon lasts over an hour but he is used to it and usually has no problems (often doing better than some adults :)). Children will learn if the experience is regular enough.

    Our family, like yours, does most everything together. We still need to work more on ministering to others in the home and ministering together as a family outside the home. While we do so, we tend to revert to the ingrained expectation of the church organizing much of the “ministry”. Years of training are hard to overcome at times. 🙁

    Berean Wife

  2. Rountine is great for small children, even little things done at home: like having them sit in a chair while you read to them, I’ve heard of one family who taught their children such things by putting them in a chair for five minutes and increasing the time each day.

    Dad is watching the game in the multimedia room, while MOM is doing overtime at the office, 15yrd old PRINCESS is in her room with her boyfriend ‘innocently’ watching the lastest horror flik (behind closed doors), Junior is traveling across the state for semi-finals in basketball!

    BTW: Bound for Glory is by R.C. Jr
    it has some good stuff if you can stomach reading about the “covenant child’ (blah)

    Berean Wife Reply:


    You are correct about training children. The only problem is that so many of us who are parents now spent our formative years in daycare. Makes it harder to know what can be expected from children.

    Your today’s scenario is so accurate it would be funny if it wasn’t so true. 🙁

    Yeah, R.C., Junior you have to take with a grain of salt. I have issues with the baby baptism and sprinkling typically done in Presbyterian churches, although much else appears to be sound. His dad is whom I prefer to listen to; he rarely mentions those more polarizing issues involving baptism.

    Berean Wife

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