In Genesis 19 we are first introduced to Lot’s daughters. We see that Lot has misplaced priorities and lacks faith in the Lord to protect him and his family in Genesis 19:8 when he offers his daughters to the men of the city. There is no need to try and validate Lot’s actions and make them seem less heinous than they are. Lot’s family is obviously lacking in many points that make for a healthy family.
Next we are introduced to his sons-in-laws.
Genesis 19:14 (ESV) So Lot went out and said to his sons-in-law, who were to marry his daughters, “Up! Get out of this place, for the Lord is about to destroy the city.” But he seemed to his sons-in-law to be jesting.
That is the sum of what we know about them beyond the fact that they are destroyed with the city. Question is why were Lot’s daughters even betrothed to these men? They obviously lacked faith in the Lord. They weren’t respectful and honoring to their father-in-law.
If you’ve read Voddie Baucham’s book “What He Must Be…” you would realize the importance Father’s should place on whom their daughters marry. Baucham’s book covers areas of faith, character, and responsibility, I wrote about it previously. This quote is from the book.
“… I cannot give my consent to a man who is not a follower of Christ.”
But that is exactly what Lot did not do. His sons-in-law made fun of Lot and his God who was going to bring destruction. But Lot had no choice right? What else could he do?
Look at what Abraham did.
Genesis 24:1-4 (ESV)
1 Now Abraham was old, well advanced in years. And the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things.
2 And Abraham said to his servant, the oldest of his household, who had charge of all that he had, “Put your hand under my thigh,
3 that I may make you swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell,
4 but will go to my country and to my kindred, and take a wife for my son Isaac.”
Abraham was not going to allow a pagan Canaanite to be the wife of his promised son. So Abraham sent his servant back to his relatives to seek a wife for Isaac. There is no doubt that Abraham’s heart was seeking to serve the Lord and do the best he could for Isaac. The Lord had previously expressed that Abraham would “command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord”. (Genesis 18:19)
There can be no doubt that the Lord did answer the prayers of Abraham and his servant in providing Rebekah for Isaac.
What might have been the difference in Lot’s life and his family if he had done the same as Abraham and sought non-Canaanite husbands for his daughters?
As you see later in the life of Lot, he lost the heart of his daughters. They did not trust their father to do the best he could for them. They could not even count on Lot to find them another husband, believer or not, when they were living in the cave.
Like so many righteous men in the Scripture, Lot failed at his parenting and protecting of his children. That failure has eternal consequences.