Would Your Children Take Your Advice About A Spouse?

In Would You Have Taken Your Parents Advice? I shared that I wouldn’t have taken my parent’s advice about a potential spouse.  However, I could honestly at this point say that at least my oldest two children would listen and consider advice from my husband and I.  They are the only ones who are teens and mature at this point.  The others will remain to be seen.

Why do I think my children would listen when I wouldn’t have?

I don’t really know except that their life has been so different from mine growing up that honestly it is like comparing apples to oranges.

  • Intact family
  • Homeschooling
  • Christian faith
  • Living out our Christian faith daily (although flawed at best)
  • Different type of church life
  • Less peer pressure
  • Parental guidance for choosing friends
  • Living life as a family instead of individuals together in a house
  • Friends with similar values
  • Seeing others who have valued their parents input
  • Preaching to support the concept of parental guidance

Although the proof is in the pudding, or in other words until the event happens we won’t really know what will happen.

Do you have any clue why your children might listen better than you would have?

Or do we as parents always self-deceive ourselves?


5 thoughts on “Would Your Children Take Your Advice About A Spouse?

  1. What a good and thought-provoking article! I totally agree with what you mentioned about the differences in our homelife possibly making a difference.

    Berean Wife Reply:


    Hello! 😉 Thank you.

    I sure pray that the difference in homelife and now church life will help us keep the heart of our children. If nothing else maybe there will be other wise counselors available that our children will listen to when the time comes even if they don’t want to listen to their parents.

    Berean Wife

  2. Yes, I think my children would take my advice.

    Interestingly enough, many times their friends want my advice, particularly when their own parents seem to be living vicariously through the kids rather than guiding them.

    One of the things I tried hard not to do, is say anything that would undermine their relationships with their own parents. Whether or not I, or even their kids, respect their ability to give wise counsel, they still need to respect their parents.

    Which brings me to my closing point: By the time kids are entering young adulthood (teens), they know whether or not their parents, even the Christian ones, are the real deal- or not.

    Berean Wife Reply:


    I so agree, kids and especially teens are able to see through our masks and they will let us know they see. I’m sure you are the real deal and are seeking to give wise counsel. 🙂 That probably explains why your daughter’s friends trust you to ask for advice. I am so glad you still encourage others to respect their parents even if the parents are unwise, all of us are at times. We should always encourage other children to turn their hearts to their family even if only to set an example in order to share the gospel with their family.

    Berean Wife

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