Live Peaceably

Romans 12:17-20 (ESV)

17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.
18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”

Much easier said than done. 🙁


7 thoughts on “Live Peaceably

  1. Is it acceptable to greet a colleagues wife with some reservation after the couple has been known to spread rumors about our family. I recently came across this lady and I was cordial but clearly not my normal outgoing self. I still feel hurt from her behavior.

    Berean Wife Reply:


    There is no one who wouldn’t feel justified in being reserved with someone who has injured us or our family. However what would be the appropriate Christ-like response? That is tough. Christ even when betrayed by Judas still greeted him as friend.

    Matthew 26:49-50 (ESV)
    49 And he came up to Jesus at once and said, “Greetings, Rabbi!” And he kissed him.
    50 Jesus said to him, “Friend, do what you came to do.” Then they came up and laid hands on Jesus and seized him.

    Not only are we not to repay evil for evil but we are to bless those who have treated us evil.

    1 Peter 3:9 (ESV) Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.

    Only the Lord can give us the ability to bless those who have mistreated us. Ask Him to grant you the ability to bless your colleagues’ wife. Begin by praying for her.

    Luke 6:27-36 (ESV)
    27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,
    28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.
    29 To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either.
    30 Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back.
    31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.
    32 “If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.
    33 And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.
    34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount.
    35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.
    36 Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.

    Like I said much easier said than done.

    Berean Wife

    Anonymous Reply:

    Thank you ever so much for providing the scripture to convict my behavior. Any thoughts on how I should correct myself….apologize…send a card???… .or simply let it go……Bless you for this amazing site….words can not thank you enough…..

    Berean Wife Reply:


    I think you should pray about what the Lord would have you do. Much will depend on how you would have normally interacted. If it was such that she would have really noticed the slight then obviously a more direct response might be needed. It needs to be a matter from your heart of course.

    This is just an example that occurred with me:

    For years we attended church with a family and interacted more as acquaintances, never really close friends. We homeschooled; they used the public school, so we weren’t in lots of activities together. Well after we had known each other for over five years one day the mom called me. That was surprising in itself, but the real surprise was still to come. She apologized for having thought our family was strange and quacks because of the way we raised our children. I told her I didn’t think she had been rude or anything like that. Yet she insisted she had thought that and had even laughed with others about our poor mistreated children, etc. She apologized profusely and said that after years of watching, she was not only convicted in her attitude toward us, but also sorry that she had not done similar with her own children. I was shocked and floored that she would apologize for something that I really had no grasp of having happened.

    I can’t tell you what would be best in your situation but you may find that what the Lord leads you to do may develop a closer friendship, a witnessing opportunity or even worse more problems. However, very few people can argue with a person praying for them as long as it is done in a humble attitude. As opposed to the “I’m praying for you and your lousy attitude and meanness” kind of thing.

    Like I said it is easier to deal with the Scripture when your own emotions don’t get in the way. 🙁

    Berean Wife

    Berean Wife Reply:


    Thank you. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed the website. I just really want to encourage others to think about their Christian life and to check everything out with Scripture.

    Often though I’m the one learning the most. 🙂

    Berean Wife

    Anonymous Reply:

    Your post has been a wonderful spring board of dicussion in our home! Different scenarios where these scriptures could apply. May I give you another example? For example, you completed building a home and hired a builder. Most of the home was executed well,, but the roof is leaking and the home audio equipment after a couple years of not working at all must be completely replaced, resulting in thousands of dollars of additional cost to the homeowner. Is it unbibilical to hold these people responsible although they refuse to own up to their failures? Do we “turn the other cheak” and allow services rendered, to go unchecked and challenged?

    Berean Wife Reply:


    Oh, you ask a tough question. I hate having to deal with workmen. I never know for sure what to do. I don’t want to be too demanding and yet I want to get what I pay for.

    There are lots of verses that deal with contracts, covenants, oaths, vows and pledges. No matter what the Lord expects His people to fulfill their pledges.

    Numbers 30:2 If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. ESV
    And to show compassion when enforcing pledges of another.

    Deuteronomy 24:17-18 (ESV)
    17 “You shall not pervert the justice due to the sojourner or to the fatherless, or take a widow’s garment in pledge,
    18 but you shall remember that you were a slave in Egypt and the Lord your God redeemed you from there; therefore I command you to do this.

    But what do you do when another won’t fulfill their pledge or contract and it isn’t a matter of inability or poverty?

    Scripture says not to take another believer to court.

    1 Corinthians 6:1-8 (ESV)
    1 When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to law before the unrighteous instead of the saints?
    2 Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases?
    3 Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life!
    4 So if you have such cases, why do you lay them before those who have no standing in the church?
    5 I say this to your shame. Can it be that there is no one among you wise enough to settle a dispute between the brothers,
    6 but brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers?
    7 To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded?
    8 But you yourselves wrong and defraud—even your own brothers!

    Often though people get around this by saying it is OK to take a non-believer to court or to take a company to court. That almost seems like looking for loopholes. I honestly don’t know and hope to never be placed in that situation.

    But there are lots of things that can be done prior to court. An appeal to the company, letters, and phone calls sometimes will solve the problem. A few times it is just speaking to the right person at the right time. But at all times we are to be civil and respectful and never rude, angry or belittling. Often my son or husband can get better results just by talking to someone. It seems when I call my voice (which sounds young) doesn’t have the sway theirs does. Typically a contract will have itemized out the way to appeal for faulty work or an arbitrator.

    But sometimes we as believers may be called to suffer for the wrong actions of another. In that case we should still strive to be Christ-like in our actions and attitudes.

    It is tough and I don’t know any clear cut Scripture that will answer your question, just lots of inferred Scripture and of course prayer is necessary.

    Berean Wife

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