Feelings

FEELINGS (Morris Albert)

Feelings, nothing more than feelings,
trying to forget my feelings of love.

………

When I was growing up this was a hated song that was sung everywhere.  That song was sung for the purpose of making fun of others and as a parody in skits.  However, it honestly embodies a change that occurred in the way life has been lived since the sixties.  See until the revolution of the sixties people where more likely to make decisions based on “right and wrong”, honor, honesty, and the law; any number of governing factors were present.  But after the sixties “feelings” became a driving force in decisions.  Now, of course, there have always been individuals who based their life on their feelings, yet the majority of society did not, until the past fifty years.

Marriages were broken because spouses didn’t “feel” love for each other.

Children were sent off to daycare because mothers didn’t “feel” fulfilled as a homemaker.

Living together became more common because people didn’t “feel” like marriage.

Have you ever heard the expression “Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they just are“?  If you are a Christian you should instantly recognized that as a false statement.  Just an example:

Hate

Leviticus 19:17-18 (ESV)
17  “You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him.
18  You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.

Matthew 5:43-48 (ESV)
43  “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’
44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
45  so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
46  For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
47 And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?
48  You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

So see the feeling of hate of another person is wrong and it is a sin.  Yet we may hate their works (their actions) such as murder, abuse, etc.

Revelation 2:6 (ESV) Yet this you have: you hate the works of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate.

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Do you think the dramatic increase in “mental illness” and depression can be related to this focus on “feelings”?

This is what Jay Adams says in his book The Christian Counselor’s Manual:

“Feelings are up and down, they have peaks and troughs…. Nothing short of commandment living (often in spite of feelings) can keep life stable.  The peaks and troughs grow larger as they are allowed to become the life motivating force; however, on the other hand, they tend to flatten out as life becomes commandment oriented.”

Do you know people who are so swayed by their feelings that their emotions are up and down constantly?

Dare we not confront another when they are swayed by their feelings in direct opposition to God’s commands?

Proverbs 27:5-6 (ESV)
5  Better is open rebuke than hidden love.
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.

Oh, that another would love us such to confront us about our acting according to our sinful feelings!

 


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3 thoughts on “Feelings

  1. If you actually read the scripture is it the actions of the hatred that are the problem. If you read and look at the Greek of hatred, it is not a feeling, but action of the heart. God gave us feelings to enhance our life, not to life according to them, but they are a gift, not a sin. The Bible says, do not sin in your anger, it does not say you’ll never be angry, it’s what you do with that anger that becomes the problem.

    Berean Wife Reply:

    Kami,

    I did point out that often the problem is living life according to our feelings.

    But after the sixties “feelings” became a driving force in decisions.

    Marriages were broken because spouses didn’t “feel” love for each other.

    Children were sent off to daycare because mothers didn’t “feel” fulfilled as a homemaker.

    Living together became more common because people didn’t “feel” like marriage.

    So yes, often the sin is in how we respond to our feelings.

    However, I must disagree with you. Feelings can be sinful. If a true believer says “I don’t feel God loves me.” They have sinned. God repeatedly points out that He loves those who are His. So feelings of being unloved are sinful and they call God a liar and deny the truth.

    Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV) The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

    We cannot trust our heart (our feelings); they can be wrong and they can be sinful. We can only trust in God’s Word.

    Proverbs 28:26 (ESV) Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.

    What if a believer is suffering under a burden of guilt from previous confessed sins? Are those feelings valid? No, that is sin. Honestly confessed sin in a believer is forgiven and the Lord does not hold it against us any longer. Thus a believer who feels overwhelming guilt is sinning whether there is any action involved or not.

    Or maybe a person feels God is unfair? unjust? mean? only wants them to be happy?

    See the problem here.

    That is why we cannot say “feelings are neither right or wrong“?

    Our feelings are tainted by sin and this sinful world just as everything else is. We can’t trust them.

    Berean Wife

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