The 21 Rules of This House

This is very old. I had this list back when my oldest was just starting school. We’ve used it off and on for the last 15 plus years.  The book comes with a coloring page for each rule and a laminated sheet of the rules.  The book is no longer published but can be bought used.

 

The 21 Rules of This House

By Gregg Harris

 

  • We obey God.
  • We love, honor, and pray for one another.
  • We tell the truth.
  • We consider another’s interest ahead of our own.
  • We speak quietly and respectfully with one another.
  • We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds.
  • When someone needs correction, we correct him in love.
  • When someone is sorry, we forgive him.
  • When someone is sad, we comfort him.
  • When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.
  • When we have work to do, we do it without complaining.
  • We take good care of everything that God has given us.
  • When we have something nice to share, we share it.
  • We do not create unnecessary work for others.
  • When we open something, we close it.
  • When we take something out, we put it away.
  • When we turn something on, we turn it off.
  • When we make a mess, we clean it up.
  • When we do not know what to do, we ask.
  • When we go out, we act just as if we were in this house.
  • When we disobey or forget any of the 21 Rules of This House, we accept discipline and instruction of the Lord.

 

Instructions: Post the list on your refrigerator door or other prominent location in your home. When misbehavior occurs, draw attention to which House Rule has been violated and repeat the rule a few times and explain what it means. Once the meaning becomes clear, discipline your child for any expressions of willful defiance. Over time, the rules will be internalized by each child as a general statement of the behavioral boundaries. Remember that these rules follow you and your child wherever they go. Discipline should only be administered in private, in love for the child, never in anger or in any way that would ever do harm. The challenge is to be consistent so that such discipline is eventually no longer needed.

 


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9 thoughts on “The 21 Rules of This House

  1. I have this resource–someone gifted me once. Always wanted to use it but never did. Then I came across it TONIGHT! I think when the little boys’ English improves, we may try it.

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  3. What happens if the child does not believe in God? Would that child be discourage to say those things? It is an honest question.

    Berean Wife Reply:

    Anonymous,

    When we raise our children we do very many things to teach the children appropriate behavior and appropriate attitudes prior to the actual need for the behavior. Our children learn much through the modeling of parents. If a parent obeys God and takes care of all God has given them then the child will learn through those activities whether or not a child really understands God. They can learn that hitting your sister does not please the Lord well before they are believers, well before they understand who God is and well before they actually understand why it is unloving to hit.

    If a toddler wants to get somewhere fast he may ask the parent to drive faster. The parent then may (should) say no we can’t go faster because that is over the speed limit and against the law. Does the child understand all that? No. But the parent is setting an example. The parent is building a foundation for the child to grow into a law abiding citizen. And the parent is helping to ensure the safety of others by teaching that limits are for our own good and the good of others.

    Now take that same concept and apply it to our unbelieving children. We are setting an example, building a foundation, teaching doctrine, and instilling good habits. The Lord will be responsible for the fruit it may produce in the lives of our children.

    Berean Wife

    Anonymous Reply:

    Thank you very much for the honest reply. I have always been skeptical on comments from non-Christians that brainwashing occurs in Christian households. The reason the question popped into mind is because I was reaserching Islam and Christianity. During my reaserch in comparing, Islam to Christianity I noticed that they differ in child rearing in some aspects when comes to the children’s beliefs. Wether or not this is cultural or based on religious text is a matter I need to look into later.

    -PS
    I apologize if it was a loaded question. My intent was not to offend but to inquire. Thank you for your answear.

    Anonymous Reply:

    Wow. I just ran a rabbit trail. Point is thank you very much and, I’m sorry if that question came out of no where it came from that crazy place called my brain. :0

    Berean Wife Reply:

    Anonymous,

    No problem asking the question.

    The funny thing is that those who claim others are brainwashing their children don’t realize that they do the same. We all teach our children our values, which is what they mean by brainwashing. A “tree hugger” teaches their children to value trees and the environment. Woe for the “tree hugger” child who wants to be a lumber jack. 😉 You transmit values continually by all you do and say and by what you don’t do or say.

    Berean Wife

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