Responsibility is respond-ability: the God-given ability to respond to any situation of life in accordance with his commandments. It is the ability to respond biblically to whatever God or man does or says. It is the ability, as Romans 15:1-3 says, to bear the weaknesses of those without strength and not just please ourselves. It is the ability to please one’s neighbor for his good to his edification. It is the ability to emulate Christ who did not please himself, “but, as it is written, the reproaches of those who reproached thee fell upon me.”
Jay Adams, Competent to Counsel
Hate by Jay E Adams
It is commonly taught that “God hates the sin but loves the sinner.” Few ever examine, let alone challenge, that statement. Yet not only do we read of God’s hatred toward evil-doers (“You hate all workers of iniquity” [Ps. 5:5]), but we know that it is upon men, not their sins, that God’s hatred poured His wrath. And it is human beings, not their sins, who will suffer forever in hell. Doesn’t it seem wrong, therefore, to say God hates sin but loves the sinner?
“Well, when you put it that way, yes. I guess so. But that creates problems too.” Of course it does. But we must not assert a falsehood or reject truth merely because doing so raises new problems the error (wrongly) avoided.
To say God forgives sin is true. But in saying it that way, we must never lose sight of the fact that it is sinners from whom the liability of guilt is lifted. God punishes persons and He forgives persons. Some try to distinguish between sin and the sinner: “God hates sin; loves the sinner.” Such separation isn’t possible. God sends sinners to hell; they, not their sin, are punished eternally. Christ, not the sin He bore, suffered and died on the cross.
Jay Adams, from The Basis for Forgiveness
FEELINGS (Morris Albert)
Feelings, nothing more than feelings,
trying to forget my feelings of love.
When I was growing up this was a hated song that was sung everywhere. That song was sung for the purpose of making fun of others and as a parody in skits. However, it honestly embodies a change that occurred in the way life has been lived since the sixties. See until the revolution of the sixties people where more likely to make decisions based on “right and wrong”, honor, honesty, and the law; any number of governing factors were present. But after the sixties “feelings” became a driving force in decisions. Now, of course, there have always been individuals who based their life on their feelings, yet the majority of society did not, until the past fifty years.
Marriages were broken because spouses didn’t “feel” love for each other.
Children were sent off to daycare because mothers didn’t “feel” fulfilled as a homemaker.
Living together became more common because people didn’t “feel” like marriage.
Have you ever heard the expression “Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they just are“? If you are a Christian you should instantly recognized that as a false statement. Just an example:
Leviticus 19:17-18 (ESV)
17 “You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him.
18 You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.
Matthew 5:43-48 (ESV)
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’
44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
45 so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
47 And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?
48 You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
So see the feeling of hate of another person is wrong and it is a sin. Yet we may hate their works (their actions) such as murder, abuse, etc.
Revelation 2:6 (ESV) Yet this you have: you hate the works of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate.
Do you think the dramatic increase in “mental illness” and depression can be related to this focus on “feelings”?
This is what Jay Adams says in his book The Christian Counselor’s Manual:
“Feelings are up and down, they have peaks and troughs…. Nothing short of commandment living (often in spite of feelings) can keep life stable. The peaks and troughs grow larger as they are allowed to become the life motivating force; however, on the other hand, they tend to flatten out as life becomes commandment oriented.”
Do you know people who are so swayed by their feelings that their emotions are up and down constantly?
Dare we not confront another when they are swayed by their feelings in direct opposition to God’s commands?
Proverbs 27:5-6 (ESV)
5 Better is open rebuke than hidden love.
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.
Oh, that another would love us such to confront us about our acting according to our sinful feelings!
Simply this—God is not only up to something’ He’s up to something good!
“How do you know that?”
He told us so.
All things work together for good to those who love God, who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28
That truth is the believer’s warrant for saying that
1. God is in his problem
2. God is at work in his problem
3. God is up to something good in his problem.