As I continue to look at Biblical responses to I Can’t Be a “Keeper At Home” Because …, another excuse that is given is that as a woman at home with children, life might get to the point that all you could talk about was children.
There are seasons when mothers with many small children may seem to be able to think of nothing but children and their care. Sometimes all you can do is survive until the next day to start it all over again. However that doesn’t last forever. There are lots of ways that women can keep from getting to the point that all they know and speak about is their children.
1. One of the most important is to study your Bible. Serious Bible study, not just the read a passage and a devotional type study to mark it off your check list. When in the trenches of caring for several small children sometimes it is hard to do that. Getting up before the children might be very early but if that doesn’t work nap times or before bed can be used. Also finding a good source of sermons to listen to during the day will help. Now with the computer, internet and iPods no one is stuck with just listening to the fluff offered on many “Christian” radio stations. Most of all pray that the Lord will give you a desire and thirst for His Word such that you can’t wait to get into His Word.
Psalms 42:1-2 As a deer pants for flowing streams, so pants my soul for you, O God. 2 My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When shall I come and appear before God? ESV
Once we have been feeding in God’s Word then we just have to share what we are learning with others. What can possibly be more important to talk about than the Lord and His Word?
2. Just because a mother is home with the children doesn’t mean that she has to be clueless to what is going on in the world. Years ago I would listen to NPR (National Public Radio) in the morning just to get a good idea of what was going on in the world. I had to use caution though because I did not want my children exposed to all that the world offered. Now I just scan news headlines on the computer, I found that Ecclesiastes is right, there is nothing new.
9 What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done, and there is nothing new under the sun.
10 Is there a thing of which it is said, “See, this is new”? It has been already in the ages before us. ESV
3. Reading good books is another way to have something to discuss with others. There is no point in a busy mom reading the popular trash that is offered to society such as Twilight, The Shack or the abundant “Christian” Romance novels. Find something of lasting value to read. If you were public schooled catch up on reading some of the classics that you weren’t introduced to.
Foxe’s Christian Martyrs by John Foxe
Pilgrim’s Progress by John Bunyan
Those are just a couple of examples. Another thing that you can do is start to read through books that you think your children should read during their homeschooling. I found that when I reread books with an adult mom’s eye I found several Classic children’s books unacceptable due to the content, foul words, or even much of the theme. Just because a book is considered a classic doesn’t make it good. Just like being called a hymn doesn’t necessarily make it a good hymn. Pre-reading books like this will help when your children get to the age that they are reading much faster than moma can keep up.
4. Gardening, crafts and sewing can all provide you topics of conversation with others. There are an abundance of books in the public libraries that you can use to increase your knowledge, aid the family and give you something beyond children to think about. You and your children can learn together.
5. There is nothing wrong with talking about your children. 🙂 Even working mothers find they need to discuss their children with another mom. Sometimes a dad just doesn’t understand nor wants to hear the fine points of potty training or getting the two year old to stay in bed. We as women are called to encourage one another
1 Thessalonians 5:14 And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. ESV