I’ll admit right from the start that I think too much. Just ask my husband when it comes to making major decisions. I want to consider all the possibilities before committing to a decision. Nevertheless, I am astounded at how little the average person thinks. Everyone seems too busy to think about much beyond what happens next in the day. Even when my day is packed I find time to think. Driving time, waiting in line, and even mindless tasks like laundry all are time when I can think and still accomplish other things. But the most fruitful time for me to think is early mornings before the children are awake and in the evenings after the house is quiet for the night. Then I can solve the world’s problems. :0 Actually it turns out that thinking and prayer go hand-in-hand. Matters that I’m contemplating are brought before the Lord for His wisdom. If life has become too busy to allow for an adequate amount of time to contemplate and think, then I will stay up late or get up in the middle of the night to make time.
It is hard to understand how some can sit and not think. My husband when I ask him what he is thinking about nine times out of ten says nothing. ??? I thought this was an oddity of his; however, others have pointed out that their husbands do the same.
Many times I find myself getting irritated with children especially when they are in larger groups. After pondering the issue I have decided what it is that bothers me. Lack of thoughtfulness in children. Granted children are children and they will be careless and childish, but a lack of thoughtfulness is something I desire all children to learn and not just my own. Invariably, I find myself correcting other’s children when I see unthoughtfulness exhibited. I haven’t arrived at a good way to encourage more thoughtfulness in other’s children.
I’m sure some would say “What is she talking about?” Here is how I figured out ‘lack of thoughtfulness’ was bothering me. I happened to be standing at my refrigerator and noticed our “The 21 Rules of This House”. In a nut shell that whole list can be summed up with ‘thinking of others before yourself’.
First of all we are to consider the Lord before ourselves. There is a multitude of subheadings that can fit under that. While as believers we tend to say we put the Lord before ourselves, we must admit that often we don’t.
Secondly we are to put others before ourselves. We know that but do we really think about all the ways we should be putting others before ourselves? No, not really. That is where the children come in. See we must teach our children to put others before themselves. Granted we teach them to share their toys and make special concessions to guests but there are so many more areas where thoughtfulness applies.
Thoughtfulness and thinking go together. Thinking is the precursor to the behavior of thoughtfulness.
So begin thinking about how thoughtful you are in your life and if you are actually teaching your children to be thoughtful and think beyond the moment and themselves.