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A Biblical Husband & Family – Paul Washer

The Disintegrating Church Family

… Now, there are many people who are so involved in ministry and so involved in things such as that in the name of Jesus Christ, that they have little time for their family. They are deceiving themselves. They are in sin. And they are
hurting their family….

… Well, in the family there is a thing that we call headship. The Bible does teach that a man is to lead his family. It does teach that and if you do not like that, I understand that, but do not call yourself biblical, because you are not. You are influenced by your own culture, you are influenced by the teachings of feminism and everything else, but you are not biblical. Okay? Let us just state that. There is teaching in Scripture about the headship of a man and his family. There is teaching about submission. The wife is to submit to her husband. Many people hate that because of teachings of feminism. Other people hate it because of the massive abuses in regard to that teaching. …

… One of the things that churches do, probably more than anything else that I have ever seen is they – now you listen to me, you listen to me very carefully – and I am talking about sincere men do this – they starve the people of God to death and then they use them as slaves to advance their own Kingdom. Listen to me. Do I care about the lost? No one can accuse me of not caring about the lost.

But I can tell you this, I care a lot more about you.

“Do good unto all men, first of all to those of the household of faith.”

Many churches start and they are all about evangelism, all about evangelism, all about evangelism. Every Sunday morning, every Sunday night, every Wednesday they’re all about evangelism, evangelism – and the sheep are starving to death. The sheep are starving to death. And so they do not feed the sheep, but they get sheep mobilized to go out there and win a bunch of people while the sheep are starving to death, their families are a disaster, their children are a disaster, and everything else, but it is a really going church. …

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A 12 Point Cure for Complaining – Bill Izard

I’m guilty of complaining that my kids were complaining. Guess I need a dose of Biblical medicine myself. 🙁


Complaining is unbecoming of the true Christian and yet we are proficient at it. The cure is found in these verses. In Christ we are never hopeless or forsaken. Every trial has meaning. Meditate on this cure in order to change both your language and your heart.


Do all things without complaining and disputing. Philippians 2:14(NAS)


In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18


Rejoice in the Lord always. Phil. 4:4; Rejoice always. 1 Thessalonians 5:16; Count it all joy when you fall into various trials. James 1:2


Why should any living mortal, or any man, offer complaint in view of his sins? Lamentations 3:39 Do you suppose that these Galileans were worse sinners than all other Galileans, because they suffered such things? I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish. Luke 13:2-3


The sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. Rom. 8:18; For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory. 2 Corinthians 4:19


Who when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when he suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously. 1 Peter 2:23


Shall not the Judge of all the Earth do right? Genesis 18:25


I sought the Lord, and He answered me, and delivered from all my fears. Psalm 34:4


And we know that all things work together for the good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28


…and others were tortured, not accepting their release, in order that they might obtain a better resurrection; and others experienced mockings and scourgings, yes, also chains and imprisonment. They were stoned, they were sawn in two, they were tempted, they were put to death with the sword; they went about in sheepskins, in goatskins, being destitute, afflicted, ill-treated (men of whom the world was not worthy), wandering in deserts and mountains and caves and holes in the ground. All these, having gained approval through their faith… Hebrews 11:35-39


My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness. 2 Corinthians 12:9


Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? Just as it is written, “For Your sake we are killed all day long; We were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:35-39

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One of the kids just walked up and complained! I have a dose of medicine that will cure it. 🙂


Draft Dodgers Don’t Need Armor

Ephesians 6:10-18
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might.
11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.
12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.
14 Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness,
15 and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace.
16 In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one;
17 and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God,
18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication.

My husband just finished up his Bible Study on the Whole Armor of God. He ended with a quote from John MacArthur.

John MacArthur from his study in Ephesians:

“It is easy for believers – especially in the Western world, where the church is generally prosperous and respected – to be complacent and become oblivious to the seriousness of the battle around them. They rejoice in “victories” that involve no battles and in a kind of peace that is merely the absence of conflict. Theirs is the victory and peace of the draft dodger or defector who refuses to fight. They are not interested in armor because they are not engaged in the war. A Christian who no longer has to stand against the world, the flesh and the devil is a Christian who has fallen into sin or into complacency. A Christian who has no conflict is a Christian who has retreated from the front lines of service.”

So which are you?

A complacent draft dodger?

Or a fully armored soldier of the Lord?


If You Get the Opportunity Don’t Miss This

Last night my family and I went to the premiere showing of The Mysterious Islands. Not only was it the premiere of a Christian Movie it was shown in the home city of many of those who were involved in its production.

After some difficulty there will be a showing of the movie in Huntsville, Alabama tonight.

Victory in Huntsville

November 24, 2009

We want to commend the U.S. Space and Rocket Center (“USSRC”) for opening its facilities to host a private screening of The Mysterious Islands this week. Last week, I reported that Vision Forum was denied an opportunity to rent out a theater at the USSRC in Huntsville, Alabama after we were told we could do so on the date we wanted, November 25. We appealed the decision and found out from talking to the person in charge that the reason we were denied was because The Mysterious Islands was deemed “inappropriate” for this venue because it dealt with evolution. Continue

I don’t know how you can find out ahead of time about venues in your location but you can always sign up on The Mysterious Islandswebsite.

We all really enjoyed it! Beautiful filming of gloriously different creatures made by the God of all Creation.


Do You Need a Real Church?

Over the past couple of years, since I’ve had Internet access, I have enjoyed listening to sermons on line. I can listen to John MacArthur, R.C. Sproul, Voddie Baucham and Paul Washer all in one day with just a click of the button. All the sermons are free and can be saved or put on my iPod for listening to whenever it fits in my schedule.

Since I’ve had my website I have become aware of large numbers of people who either home church or Internet church. They would all give various reasons for not attending a typical church.

  1. Difficulty finding a good church.
  2. Travel distance to attend church.
  3. Can listen to better preachers online or on the TV than a local church.
  4. Attending an actual church doesn’t benefit them anymore than watching a church service.
  5. They don’t have to deal with difficult people.

I’m sure that there are many more reasons that can be given for not actually being in a church. But according to the Scripture we as believers should want to gather together with other believers.

1 John 2:19 They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us. But they went out, that it might become plain that they all are not of us. ESV

Psalms 122:1 I was glad when they said to me, “Let us go to the house of the Lord!” ESV

Home Alone: Do We Still Need the Local Church?

• Actual relationships rather than imaginary ones. Weak as some churches are, they are still made up of living people who come together. The media-engrossed Christian isolates himself from other believers while imagining relationships that are actually not there. This is not living life, but skipping life. I am often saddened by the isolated person who misses out on people. There is no true fellowship except among believers. Once you know it, you will not be satisfied without it.

• Compassionate care rather than mere talk of concern. The media pastors talk about their love for their audience, but they will not be there when your child experiments with drugs, or your spouse dies, or your business goes down the drain. Those in the media audience will not sit at your bedside when you are dying. Radio preachers say they pray for you, but they really don’t know you at all. Remember this: if you live alone, you die alone.

• Real accountability rather than unchecked liberty. It may not seem immediately desirable, but accountability is a precious gift. In the local church, if you stray from God, someone is there to bring you back, or even to lovingly discipline you. If you are alone, you may stray deeper and deeper into sin even though you have periodic religious media fixes. Rather, you must subject yourself to the answerability that comes from engaging with real people. If you understand the deceitfulness of sin, you know you need that.

• Authentic shared worship rather than vicarious viewing of worship. God promises benefits and blessings to corporate worship, even more so than for individual worship, though we should do both. Yet the isolated virtual Christian only imagines himself worshipping with others as he sits before the monitor. If the professing solo believer were to arrive in heaven one day, he would only then experience what he was made for when he became a believer. He will say, “How could I have missed it?” Continue reading

We as believers need a local body of believers to worship with. It might be hard to find one or we may have to start one ourselves, if the Lord calls us to, but we should always desire to worship the Lord with brothers and sisters in Christ.


Time Wasters

Richard Baxter (1615-1691) Time-Wasters

Thief I: One of the greatest time-wasting sins consists of idleness or sloth.

Thief II: The next thief or time-waster is excess of sleep.

Thief III: The next thief or time-waster is an inordinate adorning of the body.

Thief IV: Another time-wasting thief is unnecessary pomp and curiosity in retinue, attendance, house furniture, provision and entertainments, together with excess of compliment and ceremony, and servitude to the humors and expectations of time-wasters.

Thief V: Another time-wasting sin is needless and tedious feastings, gluttony, and tippling. (Tippling – drinking)

Thief VI:Another time-waster is idle talk.

Thief VII: Another thief which by the aforesaid means would steal your time, is vain and sinful company.

Thief VIII: Another notorious time-wasting thief, is needless, inordinate sports and games, which are stigmatized by the offenders themselves, with the infamous name of pastimes, and masked with deceitful title of recreations;

Thief IX:Another time-wasting thief is excess of worldly cares and business.

Thief X: Another time-waster is vain ungoverned and sinful thoughts.

Thief XI: Another dangerous time-waster sin is the reading of vain books , play-books, romances, and feigned histories; and also unprofitable studies, undertaken but for vain-glory, or the pleasing of a carnal or curious mind.

Thief XII: But the master-thief that robs men of their time is an unsancitified , ungodly heart; for this loseth time whatever men are doing; because they never intend the glory of God;


Checking For Life – Prayer

While checking for evidences of life and growth, what about your prayers?

Do You Pray?

I ask whether you pray, because a habit of prayer is one of the surest marks of a true Christian.

All the children of God on earth are alike in this respect. From the moment there is any life and reality about their religion, they pray. Just as the first sign of life in an infant when born into the world is the act of breathing, so the first act of men and women when they are born again is praying.

This is one of the common marks of all the elect of God, “They cry unto him day and night” (Luke 18:1). The Holy Spirit, who makes them new creatures, works in them the feeling of adoption, and makes them cry, “Abba, Father” (Rom. 8:15). The Lord Jesus, when he quickens them, gives them a voice and a tongue, and says to them, “Be dumb no more.” God has no dumb children. It is as much a part of their new nature to pray, as it is of a child to cry. They see their need of mercy and grace. They feel their emptiness and weakness. They can not do otherwise than they do. They must pray.

But this I do say, that not praying is a clear proof that a man is not yet a true Christian. He cannot really feel his sins. He cannot love God. He cannot feel himself a debtor to Christ. He cannot long after holiness. He cannot desire heaven. He has yet to be born again. He has yet to be made a new creature. He may boast confidently of election, grace, faith, hope, and knowledge, and deceive ignorant people. But you may rest assured it is all vain talk if he does not pray.


If I fail to spend two hours in prayer each morning,

the devil gets the victory through the day.

I have so much business I cannot get on

without spending three hours daily in prayer.

~ Martin Luther ~


“Prayer will make a man cease from sin,

or sin will entice a man to cease from prayer.”

~ John Bunyon ~


“The little estimate we put on prayer

is evidence from the little time we give to it.”

~ E.M. Bounds ~

Romans 12:12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. ESV

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
16 Rejoice always,
17 pray without ceasing,
18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

“You may as soon find a living man that does not breath,

as a living Christian that does not pray.”

~ Matthew Henry ~


Is there evidence of growth and life?


Do You See Growth?

I’m not much of a gardener nor do I do well with houseplants. I have just a few that I have been able to keep alive over the years. Many times my houseplants just sorta stagnate for years before succumbing to death. What do I mean by stagnate?

No growth.

Gradually loosing leaves but not replacing them.

Leaves becoming more and more yellow.

Never flowering.

No fruit.

Some Christians are like my houseplants. They are stagnant and dying instead of growing and producing fruit.

“The Christian who is always at a standstill,

to all appearance the same man,

with the same little faults, and weaknesses,

and besetting sins, and petty infirmities,

is seldom the Christian who does much good.

The man who shakes and stirs minds,

and sets the world thinking,

is the believer who is continually improving and going forward.

Men think there is life and reality when they see growth.”

Holiness by J.C. Ryle – pp. 103-104


Do you see growth?


Giving Money Or Serving?

Terry’s comment here got me to thinking. I think the focus of tithing and giving money to the church has hindered our faith and its expression. It has also hindered how our churches share the gospel.

I think our churches would be more blessed if they could accept the fact that tithing as such is not a NT command. Our churches often focus more on the money and using it, than on the gospel itself. What I mean is that it is easier to give $100 to a ministry for sharing the gospel than for the average member to step out and share the gospel and minister themselves.

We have become a society that will throw money at every problem in hopes of curing it.

Troubled teens – pay for someone else to deal with them.

Poverty – pay a ministry to feed and house them.

Hungry on the street – send our money to the Jimmy Hale Mission, or whatever your localities mission is.

Teens at church without Christian parents – pay a youth leader to teach and disciple them, so what if he has 30 or more teens to deal with.

Marriages in trouble – pay for counseling.

Foster children – send a check at Christmas time.

Orphans in Nicaragua – send a few dollars a month.

Troubled economy – spend more money on it.

Poor educational system – give the schools more money.

If you seriously think about it, our money appears to be our god and the money is the answer and savior of all.

This isn’t anything new though. My very first job was working at a Daycare. I was a pre-teen and teen, probably wasn’t even legally allowed to do so but I didn’t know. I worked for the same daycare system for probably three or four years, making less than minimum wage. But one day I was told that they had a new employee and didn’t need me anymore. Why not? Because see this single mother of five children needed a job. Did they hire her out of the kindness of their heart? No. They hired her because she was free. She came under a government program that was actually paying the salary for her. The government called it a job training program, a way to work her into the work force. So the daycare got a free employee. The government goal was to teach a mother of five how to care for children in a daycare, job development. This was my first real experience with the government throwing away taxpayer money.

I must admit that it is often easier and less painful to give some money than it is to be involved. But remember the Good Samaritan story? What would we tend to do now? Pay a ministry to go around and be the Samaritan for us?

Luke 10:30-37

30 Jesus replied, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he fell among robbers, who stripped him and beat him and departed, leaving him half dead.

31 Now by chance a priest was going down that road, and when he saw him he passed by on the other side.

32 So likewise a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side.

33 But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was, and when he saw him, he had compassion.

34 He went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and took care of him.

35 And the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper, saying, ‘Take care of him, and whatever more you spend, I will repay you when I come back.’

36 Which of these three, do you think, proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell among the robbers?”

37 He said, “The one who showed him mercy.” And Jesus said to him, “You go, and do likewise.” ESV

Notice though that the Samaritan didn’t just use his money but he got personally involved.

Luke 10:34 He went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and took care of him.

The Samaritan became seriously involved in the situation not just throwing some money at it. I’m sure there isn’t anyone reading this that would not do the same if they found an injured person on the side of the road. But there are just as injured people that we do tend to just throw money at the problem and hope someone else will take care of it.

So maybe our churches and believers in general would benefit from less focus on the giving of a “tithe” and more on the real giving where it hurts in time, emotions and true service. Now that doesn’t mean that the money is not important, but it is a tool not the goal.

Does that make sense?


The World’s Horrible Financial Advice

Wow, talk about bad advice. The following article gets to the point of ultimately recommending bankruptcy.

While the idea of some debt being worse than others is a point I would agree with, never would I say there is “good debt” and if you can’t pay it just bail out on it.

Get real: Downsize your money goals

… Not all loans are created equal. While credit cards and payday loans are toxic debts that erode your financial security, low-rate mortgages and student loans are generally considered good debt because they help you get ahead. So it’s OK not to rush to pay off those good loans, but you’ll want to attack your credit cards and other high-rate debts. …

If you can find a way to pay your bills, you should.

If you can’t, though, you may need to discuss your situation with an experienced bankruptcy attorney who can review your situation and counsel you about your options, including bankruptcy and foreclosure.

Debt is only “good” if you do not mind slavery.

Proverbs 22:7 The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender. ESV

Psalms 37:21 The wicked borrows but does not pay back, but the righteous is generous and gives; …. ESV