Tag Archive | Counseling

That’s Just The Way I Am

I’m sure you have all heard someone say “She is just shy” or “He just doesn’t do well around strangers“. The real question is are we ignoring sinful tendencies when we use worldly terms with no Biblical basis. Challies reflects on this idea in his podcast Introverted.

So what is it? Is introversion like gender or race, things that are given to me and over which I have no say, just who I am? Or are they things that I can control or things that I can choose? Will we all be introverts or all be extroverts in heaven? Are these real distinctions or could it be that the are ways we excuse our sin? What I don’t want to do is excuse sin or weakness by using respected or respectable terms that have no biblical basis. There are some ways that psychology offers some truth, but there are also ways in which it will inevitably lead us astray.

My challenge, and it is a challenge I face all the time, is to keep introversion from enabling or excusing sin. Introversion can quickly and easily become a way to validate sin. I can excuse selfishness, self-centeredness, escapism, lack of hospitality, rudeness. I can stay away from people and excuse it as being just the way I am, as being who I am. I can be shy and quiet when the Lord calls me to be strong and bold. Of course extroversion can also be a way to validate sin. The extrovert can run away from solitude, avoid spending time alone, validate himself by the amount of time he spends with others, doubt himself when he is alone. This introvert/extrovert distinction affects each of us in all kinds of ways.

Tim Challies in Introverted

Going through Jay Adams’ Nouthetic Counseling or Ed Welch and CCEF will make you reconsider many of your preconceived ideas about yourself and others. It just might surprise you how influenced by secular psychology and the world’s ideas you really are. There is alot of trash the church has allowed to influence her from the world.


It’s No Use; I’ve Tried It Before

Ever been known to say “It’s no use; I’ve tried it before.”. I have. There have been many times when I felt trying again would be just a waste of time.

“Christians who speak that way (and many do, unfortunately) deny God’s power to change people. Theoretically, they accept this possibility, but their words and actions belie their professed beliefs. The Christian, in love, never gives up (“love never fails”). That means he keeps on “hoping all things.” He knows that (perhaps in answer to his own prayers) no matter how often Bill has responded in one way in the past, God may have done something between the last and this to change Bill. How often have I seen this in counseling! It is unloving for one person to prejudge the response of another, and it virtually denies the value of the prayer that one makes requesting just such a change. Love and faith characterize the peacemaker just as suspicion and doubt characterize the troublemaker.”


Jay Adams, How to Overcome Evil