Whom does Jesus call His Friends?
Jesus calls Lazarus His friend.
John 11:11 After saying these things, he said to them, “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep, but I go to awaken him.” ESV
Abraham was called God’s friend.
James 2:23 Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness”—and he was called a friend of God. ESV
We are the friends of Jesus if we are obedient to His commands.
13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lays down his life for his friends.
14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.
15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. ESV
Thus Jesus was not the friend of those in disobedience. Jesus was accused of being the friend of sinners, gluttons, and drunkards by the Pharisees. Although all people are sinners only repentant, obedient sinners are Jesus’ friend. Jesus did associate with with unrepentant sinners but they were not His friends.
Notice Jesus was also accused of being a glutton and a drunkard by the Pharisees.
Matthew 11:19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is justified by her deeds.” ESV
Luke 7:34 The Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ ESV
Friendship with the world is condemned because then you become an enemy of God.
James 4:4 You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. ESV
17 Brothers, join in imitating me, and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us.
18 For many, of whom I have often told you and now tell you even with tears, walk as enemies of the cross of Christ.
19 Their end is destruction, their god is their belly, and they glory in their shame, with minds set on earthly things. ESV
What are we to do when another is an enemy of Jesus. We are to pray for them, love them and share the truth of the gospel with them.
Luke 6:34 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. ESV
An unbeliever is an “enemy of God” so were we until God called us. We show unbelievers the same Mercy and Grace the Lord showed to us in His calling us.
10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life.
11 More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation. ESV