Tag Archive | Feminism


All this talk of doctrine, so what exactly is doctrine?

Doctrine is any teaching or set of beliefs.

Generally though in the Church, doctrine is the teaching of Scriptures.  That can range from as simple as “Jesus Loves Me” to end times, eschatology, and everything in between.  So you can see there is a wide range of depth from simple to deep.  If you’ve ever taught a preschooler “Jesus Loves Me” then you’ve taught doctrine.  Nevertheless, it is very important to have right doctrine.  Doctrine also explains the meaning of the words we use in church such as salvation, regeneration, repentance.   The doctrine we at NCBC espouse for Salvation is different from the doctrine of the Mormon Church, even if we both use the same word Salvation. { see http://www.contenderministries.org/mormonism/know.php  Don’t really know anything about this site beyond this one page which explains Salvation in Mormonism.  So use caution.} If we don’t understand the differences we can’t effectively communicate with them.  Doctrine is necessary in order to have a right view of God.

A.W. Tozer said in The Knowledge of the Holy:

It is impossible to keep our moral practices sound and our inward attitudes right while our idea of God is erroneous or inadequate.”

According to John MacArthur:

Doctrine matters. What you believe about God, the gospel, the nature of man, and every major truth addressed in Scripture filters down to every area of your life. You and I will never rise above our view of God and our understanding of His Word.

Joshua Harris in Why We Need Doctrine:

Doctrine can never take the place of Jesus himself, but we can’t know him and relate to him in the right way without doctrine. This is because doctrine not only tells us what God has done but what his actions mean to us.

Often though we don’t realize how important doctrine is because we don’t recognize doctrine when we hear it or even think it.  Everyone, absolutely everyone, even an atheist, has doctrine as the foundation to their thinking and living.  Every culture has at its core doctrine. That is why “culture” is not morally neutral. The real question is what doctrine? Biblical doctrine or Satan’s doctrine?  There aren’t any other doctrines.

1 John 3:10 (ESV) By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil: whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is the one who does not love his brother.


Oh, we can label Satan’s doctrine by many different labels.  You’ll recognize these.

False doctrine






Notice how many end in –ism?   What does –ism mean?  A distinctive doctrine, theory, system, or practice.

But most doctrines aren’t so clearly labeled for us.  Wouldn’t that make things so much easier if they were?  Such that if when you read or heard an idea, up would pop a banner “This is Feminism“, “This is Socialism” or “This is of Satan”.  However, those are the easy ones to recognize.  The hard ones are those that you’ve been raised with or learned through out life.  Or even those that you hear as an adult and you think, “You know that does make sense, I see that, I see how that can be.”  Some of us have been taught false doctrine even in seemingly sound churches.  When we fill our minds and renew them each day we will get to the point where what I call “red flags” will pop up when you hear false doctrine.  Filling our minds with right doctrine along with the leading of the Holy Spirit will help us to see the false doctrine.

My mother was a single mom who had divorced several times.  Growing up there was a picture on our wall.  The picture said “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.”  The picture showed a fish riding a bike.  Cute right?  She thought so.  But she didn’t realize she was teaching doctrine.  What doctrine?  The doctrine of Feminism.

It is very easy to be swayed by false doctrine by spending too much time with it.  How do we spend too much time with false doctrine?  Media of all kinds is one of today’s most insidious means of spreading false doctrine.  The music we hear, the books we read, the movies we watch and the TV we watch all impart doctrine.  Even the internet imparts doctrine?  Take a guess at whose doctrine is most easily found? ….  Satan’s.

Vance Havner said:

It is possible to fraternize with unbelievers until false doctrine becomes less and less objectionable.

If you have children or grandchildren are they spending time hearing Satan’s doctrine in their media choices?  At their activities away from you?  With their friends?

John Stott said:

Good conduct arises out of good doctrine.


1 Corinthians 15:33 (ESV) Do not be deceived:  “Bad company ruins good morals.”


Are you hearing Satan’s doctrine so regularly such that you are becoming desensitized to it?

Everyone’s heard the frog analogy where you cannot put a frog in boiling water because it will jump out but you can put a frog in cool water and gradually turn up the heat and it will stay right there.  We do the same things to ourselves, maybe a movie or TV show has one instance of using the Lord’s name in vain and then a few weeks later the next movie might only have two or three objectionable words.  Before you know it we have become desensitized and we don’t even notice them unless some else points them out to us.

For the full series of posts in order click below:

Renewing the Attitudes of our Heart Series



Kathleen Norris – Mother

Kathleen Norris – Mother 

“There’s something magnificent in a woman like your mother, who begins eight destinies instead of one … Responsibility, – that’s what other women say they are afraid of! But it seems to me there’s no responsibility like that of decreeing that young lives simply shall not be.  Why, what good is learning, or elegance of manner, or painfully acquired fineness of speech, and taste and point of view, if you are not going to distil it into growing plants, the only real hope we have in the world!”


Mother is an amazing book about a young lady who rejects the idea that a woman’s calling is in her home.  She leaves home to find fulfillment in a career and social life, but in the end, God brings her back and shows her what it really is to be a mother.

The review also includes a link to a free copy of the small book.

Review by Berean Daughter

Continue reading the review here.


So Sad

I can’t express how sad this news article makes me. 🙁  I can guarantee that her children are hurt by her actions and her words; they just may not have told her so, yet.

The opposite of a ‘Tiger Mother’: leaving your children behind

“I had this idea that motherhood was this really all-encompassing thing,” she explained on the Today Show, where she was talking about her new memoir, “Hiroshima in the Morning.” “I was afraid of being swallowed up by that.”

Ten years ago, when her sons were 5 and 3, Rizzuto received a fellowship to spend six months in Japan, researching a book about the survivors of Hiroshima. Four months in, when her children came to visit, she had an epiphany: She didn’t want to be a full-time mother anymore. When she returned to New York, she ended her 20-year marriage and chose not to be her kids’ custodial parent.


Godly Womanhood – Peter Marshall

“Godly womanhood….the very phrase sounds strange in our ears. We never hear it now. We hear about every other type of women: beautiful women, smart women, sophisticated women, career women, talented women, divorced women. But so seldom do we hear of a godly women–or of a godly man either for that matter.

We believe women come nearer to fulfilling their God-given function in the home than anywhere else. It is a much nobler thing to be a good wife, than to be Miss America. It is a greater achievement to establish a Christian home than it is to produce a second-rate novel filled with filth. It is a far, far better thing in the realms of morals to be old-fashioned, than to be ultra modern.

The world has enough women who know how to be smart. It needs women who are willing to be simple. The world has enough women who know how to be brilliant. It needs some who will be brave. The world has enough women who are popular. It needs more who are pure.

We need woman, and men, too, who would rather be morally right than socially correct.”


 U.S. Senate Chaplain Peter Marshall


Feminism Is Evident In Attitudes

Money changes everything. If Mom earns more than Dad, who changes the diapers?

Last year, I made more money than my husband did. The difference wasn’t enormous — only 20% — but it was meaningful. At first, I felt pride — I had made a career of my writing life; I was helping to get my family back on our feet financially (after buying a house and car we’d been knocked around a bit) — but, over time, this morphed into a sense of thwarted power. When I cut my work days short for school pick up, or when I loped down the aisles of Target trying to find a pair of elusive “water shoes” or when I simply called the pediatrician, I would sometimes find myself thinking, Have I not bought my way out of this? How can I make a full-time salary and attend to its full-time pressures if so much of my day is stolen away by the responsibilities of parenting? …

When I read this article I was so sad to see the attitudes displayed by the women and in the discussion. I didn’t even bother reading the comments.  See if you think these attitudes are a problem.

I found words such as these when the women were talking about their higher income.

  • Meaningful.
  • Pride.
  • Thwarted power.
  • Have I not bought my way out of this?
  • … my day is stolen away by the responsibilities of parenting?
  • righteousness.
  • why do I have to do all this?’
  • the most hurtful thing I could say.”
  • increasingly become more powerful.
  • resent their husbands.
  • striving
  • start keeping track of (who does what)
  • disappointment
  • sense of entitlement
  • feel guilt
  • I’m the moneymaker
  • be on my top game at work
  • puts more pressure on me than on my husband
  • the pull of traditional motherhood in conflict with their being the primary earner
  • the re-submission of women
  • oppression
  • bean-counting
  • dead end road
  • giant pile of resentment

No wonder women are depressed! They are thinking wrong.

Colossians 3:12-13
12  Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,
13  bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. ESV

Just as in Genesis they are striving to lead their husbands.

Genesis 3:16 Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” ESV

An interesting thing to note is the ESV has a footnote that the word “for” could be translated as “against”. A continual striving against – sounds like the above article.

Just a footnote: It was sad to see the movie advertised on the site. I’m afraid it will have an opposite effect and actually encourage more of the same.

Here is a news video about the issue of money and marriage:

Money and Marriage  (Notice the interviewed wife’s facial expression when her husband says “I am and I’m not…” when asked if he is OK with her earning more.)

More men get fiscal boost from marriage

Moms as sole breadwinners reach record high


The Older Feminist Women Today

Have you ever sat and thought about the feminist women, those of the sixties through the eighties, who are getting older?  The ones who rejected marriage or else went through several failed marriages?  They may or may not have children.  Do you know any that fit that description?

One thing I’ve noticed more and more frequently is that there are large amounts of women who are getting past the prime of their life and they are doing so alone. 

  • They do not have a husband to grow old with.

  • They often don’t have children to help care for them.

  • If they do have children many times the children are insecurely attached.  They’ve spent too many years in changing childcare situations to be attached well.

  • The women have to work hard to be able to support themselves on their income so often they work much later in life or for many more hours than others.

  • But the most interesting thing and sad thing is that the women are often so bitter and depressed.  They are still mad at men even though many rejected men years ago.

The older feminist women wanted their freedom and the right to make their own choices without the government, the church, husbands or families having any input.  They have gotten what they wanted, but do they really want that now?  No, now they are lonely and forgotten. 

Now granted some of the women who have large amounts of money are able to buy and pay for all they need.  But the average American woman who accepted the feminist ideology, where does that put her?  She is often barely getting by, worried about her retirement account, afraid of being sick or alone and she’s miserable.

For fear of becoming victims to husbands and tied down with children they have now become their own victims.  Victims to loneliness and depression.  From fear of being badgered by oppressive husbands, they have become badgered by oppressive bosses.

The deeper problem is that the Lord was rejected just as soundly as the men were rejected.  You can’t be a Bride of Christ if you reject the principles of marriage.  While a few feminist have been part of the church, I contend they have distorted their relationship with Christ just as they distorted their relationships with men.  You cannot reject submission in all human forms and still submit to Jesus Christ as Lord.

How can we today minister to these droves of lonely and miserable women who are in need of the Savior and the Bridegroom whom they’ve rejected?


Feminism and Men

I’m the child of divorce and I remember seeing this phrase on many items around our house as a young child.

A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.

This has often been attributed to Gloria Steinem but not positively.

However, yesterday when I was reading the book So Much More by Anna Sofia Botkin and Elizabeth Botkin, I enjoyed their analogy to that statement based on the following verses.

1 Corinthians 11:11-12
11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;
12 for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God.

Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. ESV

So using the feminist reasoning we end up with this.

The Church without Christ is like a fish without a bicycle.

So how could a believer possibly think like this?


Feminism Isn’t About Happiness

It seems feminist are increasingly becoming aware that their goals have made women more unhappy over the past few decades.

Feminism Unfulfilled — Why Are So Many Women Unhappy?

“The woman’s movement wasn’t about happiness.” That judgment, attributed to feminist Susan Faludi, seems to be the blunt assessment shared by many other women. As numerous recent studies now indicate, a remarkably large percentage of women describe themselves as increasingly unhappy.

This issue came to light last month in a fascinating essay by Maureen Dowd of The New York Times. Dowd, whose columns often reveal the nation’s Zeitgeist, cited the fact that a number of major studies indicate that “women are getting gloomier and men are getting happier.” She asked: “Did the feminist revolution end up benefiting men more than women?”

We will always be unhappy when we disregard the Bible and God’s plans for us. Feminism disregards both and elevates women above all others; men, husband, children. It’s focus is on self and not on honoring Christ.

Elliot on the Essence of Femininity

The world looks for happiness through self-assertion. The Christian knows that joy is found in self-abandonment. “If a man will let himself be lost for My sake,” Jesus said, “he will find his true self.” A Christian woman’s true freedom lies on the other side of a very small gate-humble obedience-but that gate leads out into a largeness of life undreamed of by the liberators of the world, to a place where the God-given differentiation between the sexes is not obfuscated but celebrated, where our inequalities are seen as essential to the image of God, for it is in male and female, in male as male and female as female, not as two identical and interchangeable halves, that the image is manifested.

Feminism is not focused on bettering the treatment of women contrary to what many women believe. Feminism’s goal is to not to improve the woman’s lot in life but to allow the woman to be in charge of her life. First the parents have their authority eroded by feminism. Then husband’s had their authority and leadership eroded. But the ultimate goal is to remove all authority over women and their choices. Feminism will not be happy until they think they are totally free of any authority God might have over their life.

Feminism – An “Insidious Distortion”

Feminism asserts that woman’s worth is of such a nature that it gives her the right to discern, judge, and govern that truth herself. It infuses women with the idea that God’s teaching about the role of women must line up with their own perception and definition of equality and/or liberation. Feminism does not present itself as an outright affront to the Bible, but it nevertheless contains an insidious distortion that erodes the authority of Scripture.


Feminism Has Made Women Unhappy

Blue Is the New Black by Maureen Dowd

When women stepped into male- dominated realms, they put more demands — and stress — on themselves. If they once judged themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens and dinner parties, now they judge themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens, dinner parties — and grad school, work, office deadlines and meshing a two-career marriage.

“Choice is inherently stressful,” Buckingham said in an interview. “And women are being driven to distraction.”

While the above article is secular and arrives at secular conclusions, what has Scripture told us?

Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. ESV

Male and Female, different, not interchangeable nor replaceable by the other.

Genesis 2:7 … the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. ESV

Genesis 2:21-22
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.

Created in totally different manners. Nothing God does is without a purpose. He created man and woman differently for His own purposes.

1 Corinthians 11:8-9
8 For man was not made from woman, but woman from man.
9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

NYT: Modern Women are Unhappy

Maureen Dowd is a very influential cultural voice. She is a feminist. She is highly successful and driven, as evidenced by her weekly column for the Times. She is admitting, in public, that modern women are unhappy. This is essentially an admission-hold your breath here, deep breath-that feminism is not working. Coming from a feminist, that’s astonishing.

Modern women would hugely benefit from returning to traditional roles. Their current state of unhappiness, as Dowd characterizes it, is a direct result of the influence of feminism. God did not give us roles as a kind of sexual prison; He gave them to us for our good and flourishing. If we reject this plan, coded into both our design and the Word of God, then we will surely suffer.

Modern women are unhappy. Feminism is not working. It is the call of the church of Jesus Christ to image the kind of happy (though by no means easy) life of the biblical home. We do so not merely as a means of witness, in these strange days, but as a means of rescue.