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Difficult Family

Seems like every family has difficult people in it.  You know those extended family members who no matter what happens, they tend to get upset and offended about something.

  • The one who points out that no one considered them when planning get togethers.

  • No one fixed anything they could eat.

  • The children get on their nerves.

  • They can’t watch the football game because you don’t have cable.

  • They never like the gift they are given, but are offended if not given a gift.

  • Their measure of love is by how much money you spend on them.

I’m sure most people can add to the above list many, many more instances.  So what do you do?  How can you best deal with family members who choose to be unhappy and want everyone to be unhappy right along with them?

I’m afraid there is nothing much we can do to change difficult family members.  No amount of talking with, catering to or appeasing will solve the problem.  🙁   There are some people who just enjoy being miserable and trying to make others miserable along with them.  As any believer knows the only hope for a miserable person is Christ.  Yet, no matter how much we pray and share with them we cannot give them Salvation ourselves, only the Holy Spirit can bring them to Salvation.

So what do we do?

I have found that praying for the difficult family member regularly helps me.  I’m sure it also helps them, just it isn’t instant.  🙁  But when I know I will be with a difficult family member I try to spend specific time in prayer for that person.  Used to my prayers were full of “Lord change them.”  While I do still pray that they will change due to becoming a child of Christ,  that isn’t my focus, praying to change them.   I pray for their Salvation most importantly, with an eternal perspective.

But I also pray for how I interact with them.  Family members can learn how to push another’s family members “buttons”.  I pray that I am able to not be offended or take personally the attacks and jabs.  I pray to be able to deal graciously with them and not to get my feelings hurt no matter how hard they may try.  I have found praying for difficult family members and my response to them has helped immensely.  I rarely get my feelings hurt over such.  Verbal jabs and intential slights just don’t bother me anymore, usually.  I do find that it is harder to not be bothered when the slights and jabs are directed at another without reason.  But I typically don’t react with an emotional response anymore.

Try spend a week of praying ahead of time for a difficult family member and just see if it doesn’t change you and make things more pleasant.



Psalms 26:7proclaiming thanksgiving aloud, and telling all your wondrous deeds. ESV

Psalms 50:14-15
14 Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving, and perform your vows to the Most High,
15 and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.”

Psalms 50:23 The one who offers thanksgiving as his sacrifice glorifies me; to one who orders his way rightly I will show the salvation of God!” ESV

Psalms 69:30 I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving. ESV

Psalms 95:2 Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving; let us make a joyful noise to him with songs of praise! ESV

Psalms 100:4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! ESV

Psalms 147:1-11
1 Praise the Lord! For it is good to sing praises to our God; for it is pleasant, and a song of praise is fitting.
2 The Lord builds up Jerusalem; he gathers the outcasts of Israel.
3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
4 He determines the number of the stars; he gives to all of them their names.
5 Great is our Lord, and abundant in power; his understanding is beyond measure.
6 The Lord lifts up the humble; he casts the wicked to the ground.
7 Sing to the Lord with thanksgiving; make melody to our God on the lyre!
8 He covers the heavens with clouds; he prepares rain for the earth; he makes grass grow on the hills.
9 He gives to the beasts their food, and to the young ravens that cry.
10 His delight is not in the strength of the horse, nor his pleasure in the legs of a man,
11 but the Lord takes pleasure in those who fear him, in those who hope in his steadfast love.

Ephesians 5:4 Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. ESV

Philippians 4:4-6
4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.
5 Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand;
6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God

Colossians 4:2 Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. ESV

1 Timothy 4:4-5
4 For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving,
5 for it is made holy by the word of God and prayer.


Churchgoers Survive Potluck Nightmare

For those that have had one too many potlucks over the holidays here is a little humor.

Churchgoers Survive Potluck Nightmare

Tragedy struck Langley Baptist Church on Sunday afternoon when every covered dish at the church’s monthly potluck was a green bean casserole. Stunned onlookers watched in horror as family after family arrived with the same popular side dish in tow. By the time grace was said over the meal, there were over twenty-five green bean casseroles lining the buffet table with no meat dish in sight.