Tag Archive | Modesty

Maybe a Denim Skirt?

Surely, there is some middle ground between dressing our daughters as “harlots in training” and dressing them in Muslim hijab.

How about some denim skirts?

Then they can marry these homeschool musicians.

Ours is just a 12 passenger van. We have Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Mozart plus America’s 25 Favorite Hymns series in the van. I wouldn’t say we blast it though.


What Are We Doing To Our Children?

Girls aged 5 sexualised by toys like Bratz dolls, MSPs told

Bratz dolls, which have been challenging Barbie for supremacy in the girls’ toy market, were condemned by the NSPCC as the committee opened an inquiry into increasing levels of sexual imagery in goods aimed at children.

Tom Narducci, a senior consultant for the NSPCC, criticised the way dolls were dressed in short skirts and fishnet stockings and said they were sexualising girls as young as five.

Years ago a young 11 year old girl was abducted at the school bus stop. Her body was found two years later. But the lasting impression I have is the pictures of the pink “Bratz” outfit she was wearing with the word “Bratz” written across the chest and the buttocks of the outfit when they were searching for her. I have always wondered if the choice of clothing had anything to do with the abduction.

What do we teach our little girls?

THEY toddle onto the stage like a procession of miniature pole dancers. Their cheeks glow with all the health of peach blusher and their lips pout under sticky pink lip gloss.

They are five.

Only two years ago the hips clad in electric-blue hot pants were wrapped in layers of Huggies.

High heels for babies: Cute or creepy?

Some people are getting a big kick out of an emerging fashion trend for babies — high heel crib shoes for girls too young to walk. Others are certain it’s yet another sign that the republic really is going to perdition in a handbasket.

… a little disturbing that we are trying to create mini Carrie Bradshaw just a little too early.


Your Epidermis Is Showing and I Don’t Want to See It !!!

This is an old post but still very applicable. Here is a humorous look at the need for modesty.

An open letter to “Hoochie Mamas”

Yes, you know who you are. You are everywhere. Tell me, please—where can I flee from your presence? You are my age (30’s-40’s+) and you are spending way too much time in the junior’s department of your local department store. Give your teenage daughter her clothes back and head to the nearest Talbots.

Merci, beucoup, mon bonne Paris amie.


“…man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart…”

This is a verse that is commonly used to excuse all manner of outward appearance.

1 Sam 16:7 …for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart. KJV

This is one of those verses that even non-Christians seem to know and throw out along with “judge not”. However, if you will look at the full passage for the phrase you will see it means much different than it is commonly claimed to mean.

1 Sam 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart. KJV

The Lord tells Samuel to “Look not on his countenance” or “on the height of his stature.” How exactly does this have anything to do with clothing? The Lord is telling Samuel to not judge David by his “countenance” meaning whether he is handsome or plain. This is not referring to clothing at all. Look at the next criteria “on the height of his stature.” This is how tall he is, not what David is wearing. David very well could have been very short.

Later in the passage, this verse is found:

1 Sam 16:12 And he sent, and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, and withal of a beautiful countenance, and goodly to look to. KJV

What does this have to do with his clothing? Not one thing, it is describing David’s physical appearance.

The Lord will judge us on our heart but we as mere men must judge only on the appearance and the fruit, not a man’s heart. A person’s outward appearance is an indicator of the condition of the heart.

A person can look perfectly modest, pure, righteous, and God fearing on the outside and have an evil, depraved, and God-hating heart. Nevertheless, a person who is modest, pure, righteous, and God fearing in the heart cannot look immodest, evil, depraved, and God hating on the outside.

Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. KJV

Just as out of the heart the mouth speaks, also out of the heart the clothing choices are made. Are your clothes chosen to glorify the Lord and represent Him or are your clothes chosen to glorify yourself?


Modesty Survey – The Rebelution (1 Tim 4:12)

Modesty Alert Post – This may not be appropriate for men who do not have daughters or are not in leadership over women.

Although the survey answers were done by teens and men, 12 – 60 years old, they can be rather frank in their descriptions of immodest attire, clothing items and behavior in women.

Modesty Survey by TheRebelution.com and Alex and Brett Harris, defined as “a teenage rebellion against low expectations.”

The Modesty Survey is an exciting, anonymous discussion between Christian guys and girls who care about modesty. Hundreds of Christian girls contributed to the 148-question survey and over 1,600 Christian guys submitted 150,000+ answers, including 25,000 text responses, over a 20-day period in January 2007.

The following are some sample comments Christian men wrote about women and modesty. There are hundreds of comments on a variety of modesty questions at the website.

Black High Heeled Boots

~ I’m actually not sure why, but something just feels “wrong” when I see them, especially on Christian girls/women that I respect.

~ I don’t think there is anything wrong with them in and of themselves, of course, however, in my mind there are certain kinds of women who wear them historically–and that’s not the best of company to keep!

~ Depends how far they are covered by the dress or skirt. If they are not covered, then it is immodest because of the association most people have with high black boots on women.

~ They usually are simply because they are reminiscent of what prostitutes wear, and are often accompanied by short skirts. They can also cause girls to walk in suggestive ways.

Miniskirts are immodest

~ This is obvious to me, why else would someone wear so short a skirt unless it is to flaunt their bodies?

~ There needs to be an option stronger than “strongly agree” for this one. It’s even worse if the girl actual moves, as miniskirts tend to show everything clothing is supposed to hide.

~ Miniskirts make a statement. They offer a promise of a chance to be allowed to see more.

Other Posts about Modesty


“Free to Be Modest” by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

I have had several fans of the “Bama Twins” get quite upset with my stating that they dress immodestly. The conclusion I’ve arrived at is:

Those who are defending immodesty are the “Lord” of their lives and they refuse to allow Jesus to be Lord of their lives, despite the lip service they give on Sunday mornings.

This is just a portion of the article; follow the link to read the rest.

Free to Be Modest by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that doesn’t belong to her. This principle of ownership means that, are you ready for this, that you and I are not free to dress in any way we please.

We’re accountable to God. He owns us and if you’re not a child of God that’s a principle that you’re not going to like, in fact, you won’t like any of these principles if you don’t belong to the Lord.

But if you are a child of God, you will find great comfort and security in the fact that you do belong to God, that your body is His. It means that you can trust that God will take good care of His property; also that you have a responsibility to take care of it.

The second is the principle of Lordship. Jesus is Lord over all. Ownership; then Lordship. Romans 14 [:9] tells us: “For this very reason Christ died and returned to life so that He might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.”

You know what it means when we say that Jesus is Lord. It means that God has the right to regulate every area of our lives, including what we wear.

So I want to ask you, “Who runs your life, who’s your Lord?”

Most of us would say, “Jesus is my Lord.” But when it comes down to what you wear, who’s your Lord.

Are you governed by fashion, are you governed by the culture? Are you governed by your friends’ opinions or are you governed by Christ and His Word?

Who is your Lord? You see, you and I are not to be enslaved to anything or anyone other than Jesus–to have any Lord other than Him is to be a slave.

The women who have adopted the worlds’ philosophy of fashion and clothing are not free. You’ll never be truly free until you’re free to do what God wants you to do regardless of what anything or anyone else dictates to you.

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Modesty – Nakedness in the Bible

When God was giving Moses instructions for the temple and for the priests, He gave very detailed instructions. Right down to the under garments! For those who think wrongly, that the Lord does not care about our clothing, all you have to do is actually read through the Bible.

Ex 28:42-43
42 And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:
43 And they shall be upon Aaron, and upon his sons, when they come in unto the tabernacle of the congregation, or when they come near unto the altar to minister in the holy place; that they bear not iniquity, and die: it shall be a statute for ever unto him and his seed after him

The Lord tells the priests to wear linen breeches from the loins to the thigh. The “loins” is the upper and lower abdominal regions and the region about the hips including the pubic region and the reproductive organs. The “thigh” is the area extending from the hip to the knee. Therefore, the priestly breeches would have looked something like this:

This is in order to cover their nakedness! How many women (and men) wear much smaller garments and then argue that they are not naked? But notice this is the undergarment worn under the remainder of the priestly attire. The priest then wore a linen coat (robe) over these breeches or trousers.

These breeches or trousers were to cover their nakedness. What does the Bible mean by nakedness?

Isa 47:1-3
1 Come down, and sit in the dust, O virgin daughter of Babylon, sit on the ground: there is no throne, O daughter of the Chaldeans: for thou shalt no more be called tender and delicate.
2 Take the millstones, and grind meal: uncover thy locks, make bare the leg, uncover the thigh, pass over the rivers.
3 Thy nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame shall be seen: I will take vengeance, and I will not meet thee as a man

Notice that baring the leg and uncovering the thigh was nakedness. Uncovering someone’s nakedness was shameful.

Ex 20:26  Neither shalt thou go up by steps unto mine altar, that thy nakedness be not discovered thereon. KJV

The Lord even commanded the Israelites to never walk up stairs to the altar so as to not be nakedly exposed in His presence. Most churches today have steps up to the podium or stage. Many women do not realize how short a dress becomes when viewed from behind when she is walking up the steps to the stage.

Now how many ladies come to church each Sunday morning thinking they are dressed so nicely, yet the Lord looks upon them in their nakedness, shame (Isa 47:1-3) and iniquity (Ex 28:42-43). There are women who honesty do not understand what the Lord requires as modest attire but there is no excuse in the church and specifically, the pastor, allowing women to continue in iniquity all the while claiming to be Christians.

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Modesty Posts across the Web

(Sorry for the bad links, I think they are fixed.)

Christian women have obligation to dress modestly, Mary Mohler says

The world’s attitude toward fashion, Mohler said, should not be the church’s.

“The [world’s] attitude is if you’ve got it, flaunt it,” she said. “Leave as little to the imagination as possible. Regenerate Christian women, I don’t believe, leave home with this attitude. We seek to live godly, holy lives.”

Nevertheless, immodest dress is a problem in local churches on Sunday mornings, Mohler said. Women may not have a worldly attitude about modesty, but because of naivete, carelessness, busy lifestyles or cultural pressures, some women unknowingly dress immodestly, she said.

Also see the document Modeling Modesty.

Am I saying that never, ever, not even once can she wear a halter top, tube top, cropped top, mini skirt, skin tight shirts, anything that shows cleavage or midriff, hip-hugger jeans and shirts that don’t meet, that she can’t even go into an Abercrombie store, that she can’t keep Clinique in business when she is 14, and that her Sunday clothes are going to be different from her other clothes? Yes, that is exactly what I am saying. Unlike the discount store whose tags say, “there are no rules,” her father and I believe there are rules. There are absolutes. There is a line that you just don’t cross. I hasten to add that it wouldn’t matter if her father was a seminary president or a ditch digger, the rules would be the same. Mary Mohler

Modesty: God, My Heart, and Clothes (pt. 1) by C. J. Mahaney

Perhaps you can relate to Jenni. Maybe modesty sounds unappealing to you. If we played word association you’d come up with “out of style” and “legalistic.” Maybe you think God is indifferent about the clothes you wear. What does he care?

But, as Jenni ultimately discovered, there is “not a square inch” of our lives—including our closets—with which God is not concerned. Even more, he cares about the heart behind what you wear, about whether your wardrobe reveals the presence of worldliness or godliness.

Modesty: The Attitude of the Modest Woman (pt. 2)
Modesty: The Appearance of the Modest Woman (pt. 3)
Modesty: A Pastor’s Concern (pt. 4)
Modesty: A Word to Fathers (pt. 5)
Modesty: The Right Adornment (pt. 6)
Modesty: The Modest Woman’s Allegiance (pt. 7)

Sister… show mercy!

Where am I going with this? Oh, don’t try to look so innocent. You know exactly where I’m going.

So here comes this brother into the assembly of the saints, hoping for a rest from the battles of the week, a moment to regroup, sing, pray, get the Word, fellowship. He looks up to the choir, or to his left or his right — and in a tick of the clock, he’s facing the same struggle he faced every time he turned on his TV, opened a magazine, or went down a city street. He’s seeing things that make it far too easy for him not to keep his mind focused where it needs to be focused.

And he’s not in a nightclub, he’s not at a singles’ bar, he’s not at the beach. He’s in church.

Young lady, I’m talking to you

Given that I took an illustration from church service, many naturally thought I was writing about how Christian women dress in church. I wasn’t. I was writing about how Christian women dress publicly, period. Church provides a bright and shining illustration, but it isn’t as if (to speak bluntly) there’s some virtue in dressing like a saint in one building, and like a slut in another.

The Spanish Dancer and the Duck

Men tend to lust after women. And women tend to lust after being lusted after. We struggle with modesty because we all want to be the Spanish dancer. No one wants to be the duck.

But there are men out there who are fighting hard for integrity. They’re doing battle every day, desperately trying to stay pure and focused on their wives. And what do we do? We whip out our fans. We look hot, on purpose. We flirt. We pose. On purpose. We aren’t about to tone down our characters. We know how to play the part. We do it well. And everyone likes it. They’re paying attention to us, aren’t they? And we’d be lying if we said we didn’t enjoy it.

Modesty Posts:

Maidens of Virtue – Stacy McDonald

The Style Quiz by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Paul Washer on Modesty in the Church

“Modesty Heart Check” by Carolyn Mahaney

Calvin Klein vs John Calvin’s Opinions on Clothing

Modesty Quote

Attire of a Harlot !?!

A Church In Need of Prayer – (Part 2) Specifically the comments


Letter To Mother’s of Daughters

Kelli at The Land of Boys wrote this letter months ago but it is very appropriate for all mothers, here is a quote from it.


Sometimes just because something is fashionable or in style does not mean that it should be worn by an adult, much less a child or a teenager. Too often lately all I see are girls who look as if they are being trained to be living the life of a prostitute, rather than a lady.