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The 21 Rules of This House

This is very old. I had this list back when my oldest was just starting school. We’ve used it off and on for the last 15 plus years.  The book comes with a coloring page for each rule and a laminated sheet of the rules.  The book is no longer published but can be bought used.


The 21 Rules of This House

By Gregg Harris


  • We obey God.
  • We love, honor, and pray for one another.
  • We tell the truth.
  • We consider another’s interest ahead of our own.
  • We speak quietly and respectfully with one another.
  • We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds.
  • When someone needs correction, we correct him in love.
  • When someone is sorry, we forgive him.
  • When someone is sad, we comfort him.
  • When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.
  • When we have work to do, we do it without complaining.
  • We take good care of everything that God has given us.
  • When we have something nice to share, we share it.
  • We do not create unnecessary work for others.
  • When we open something, we close it.
  • When we take something out, we put it away.
  • When we turn something on, we turn it off.
  • When we make a mess, we clean it up.
  • When we do not know what to do, we ask.
  • When we go out, we act just as if we were in this house.
  • When we disobey or forget any of the 21 Rules of This House, we accept discipline and instruction of the Lord.


Instructions: Post the list on your refrigerator door or other prominent location in your home. When misbehavior occurs, draw attention to which House Rule has been violated and repeat the rule a few times and explain what it means. Once the meaning becomes clear, discipline your child for any expressions of willful defiance. Over time, the rules will be internalized by each child as a general statement of the behavioral boundaries. Remember that these rules follow you and your child wherever they go. Discipline should only be administered in private, in love for the child, never in anger or in any way that would ever do harm. The challenge is to be consistent so that such discipline is eventually no longer needed.